School Shooting?


Are you fucking serious?

It was kind of comical until someone accused me of planning to shoot up a school.

While you’re likely giggling, I’m legit upset.

I had a friend die in a school shooting at Discovery Middle School here in Huntsville, Alabama.

Some of my best friends had their lives…

If I find whoever said those things I am lagit gonna hurt them you and anyone and everyone who has gone through that should not go through that kind of harassment




bisexual guys are assumed to be secretly gay

bisexual girls are assumed to be secretly straight

both are assumed to secretly like men

see what i’m getting at?

Don’t forget that gay men are gay because they lacked a “strong male figure”. And lesbians either haven’t found the right man or are gay because of a guy.




I used to have 6 cats.  Now I have 4.

Feeding 6 cats a strict diet was really hard, and most often resulted in chaos and injuries, so I switched to open feeding.  Predictably, they gained weight.  Like, a lot of weight.

So, I decided that I should switch from the cheap walmart stuff ($10 for a 15 lb. bag) to something healthier with less filler.

I went to Petco and chose Nutro brand.  It seemed like a great deal.  $25 for a 15 lb. bag instead of $30-$50.  I didn’t bother reading reviews, because, clearly this stuff had to be better than my cheap bag of Friskies or 9lives or whatever.

I regret that more than anything.

Less than two weeks after opening the first bag, our youngest cat Loki started getting sick.

He was slightly anemic, vomiting, diarrhea.  I pushed water, decided to keep an eye on him.  We’re newly married and don’t have all of the money in the world, so vet trips are reserved for emergencies. 

Over the next few days though, he got worse.  After he peed himself while snuggling with one of our other cats, I scheduled an appointment with the vet.

The vet said that all of his blood tests came back fine, except for the one with his kidney levels.  He was in kidney failure.  We had no idea what could have caused it.  The emergency vet a week later suggested FIP.

He stayed at the vet on an IV for 2 days, and they sent him home with an antibiotic and some NutraCal.  I assumed that meant he was okay and was going to recover.  I was wrong.

He continued deteriorating over the next few days, despite my best efforts (I was pushing food and water with a syringe) until the day I came home from work and found him mostly unresponsive.  We rushed him to the emergency vet, told our story, and then came to the tearful decision to have him put to sleep.  He died before they could give him the injection.  It was heartbreaking.

We agreed with the emergency vet, blamed FIP, and tried not to think about it.

During this time, the cats had finished the first bag of Nutro and had a tiny bag of some other stuff to tide them over until I could get to Petco to get another bag.

So that’s:  Bag of Nutro, break, second bag of Nutro.

Within a week of opening the second bag of Nutro, Oreo became sick as well.  He was displaying the same symptoms as Loki, but with the added addition of vomiting.

We couldn’t afford to have him hospitalized after spending $1000 on Loki.  That had tapped out our savings.  All we could do was carefully monitor him, keep him hydrated, and hope he would eat something.

During this time, we began trying to figure out what had caused this.  They weren’t related in the slightest, so the chances of them both having FIP were incredibly slim.  They were indoor cats, and I keep all toxins away from them.  We had no idea what the culprit could be.

Finally, after Oreo had passed, my husband asked about the cat food.  The timing just seemed too weird to be a coincidence.  To placate him, I decided to look into any recalls.

What I found was absolutely horrifying.

This site alone has 1500 reviews, with an average rating of 1.5 stars.  Report after report of dogs and cats of all breeds, falling sick with the same symptoms, most dying, after eating this food.

I called Nutro to submit a complaint and I was met with anger and cold insistence that it could ABSOLUTELY NOT be their food and to not believe everything I read online, because they hadn’t had ANY complaints.  Not once did any person I talk to even say “I’m sorry for your loss.”

I am torn between the feeling of “I murdered my cats” and “This company murdered my cats”.  If I had just read reviews, my babies might still be with me.  On the other hand, this company is putting poison on the shelves and denying that they’re doing so.

Pet stores can’t take the food off of their shelves unless there is a recall.  They also cannot legally warn you against it.  All that can be done at this moment is to get the word out about what’s happening.

If you have been feeding Nutro to your pet, and they got sick in the slightest, please get a sample of the food, submit a complaint to Nutro and to the FDA/CDC.

If you have friends with pets, please tell them not to buy this stuff.

If you read the reviews on the site I linked to, you’ll see how horrifying this really is.


I don’t want anyone else to have to go through this.


(Source: plutiespark)



This is my son, Chester, who is nearly 4. He was invited to his friend Chloe’s birthday party today, the theme was prince and princesses. He asked if he could go as Sleeping Beauty, so I bought him a dress and put a cute little clip in his hair.

We arrived at the party to the following comments from the adults present:
“Oh that is just cruel.”

"Why did you make him wear a dress?"

"Poor little man, what’s your mummy playing at?"

"He’s going to hate you when he grows up."

"No way I’d let my son dress like a girl."

The fact is, Chester is almost completely gender neutral. I let him wear what he wants, be it boys or girls clothes, and he plays with whatever toys he likes. This usually involves him holding tea parties while wearing his pink Minnie Mouse top, jeans and a tiara. The guests are more often than not a mixture of Winnie The Pooh characters, dinosaurs, Barbie, Dora and solders, and they’re usually transported in his favorite fire engine.

When my husband arrived at the party later on, he was subjected to endless ridicule from the other dad’s present about how I must keep his balls in my back pocket because otherwise he would have put his foot down and not allowed Chester out like that. Oh, and by the way, our other son dressed as Ariel. When my husband pointed out that the boys were happy, and the mother of the birthday child made a point of saying how wonderful she thought it was that we allowed them freedom of choice and expression, they then stopped talking about it to our faces and started muttering about us behind our backs.

Interestingly enough, not a single child said a word about their choice of costumes, other than to compliment Chester on his new dress.

Kids don’t hate just because. They’re taught to hate. By adults.




so this is a thing

a bunch of moms are making letters+audio recordings of affirming, validating letters to queer/trans* people who don’t get that kind of support from their moms

i would say more about it but

im kind of busy in this puddle of tears on the floor so

In case any of my followers don’t have this kind of support from home…

my mom did this and if you need an honourary mother i promise she would be happy to talk to you





Who really benefits from the pink ribbon campaigns: the cause or the company? In showing the real story of breast cancer and the lives of those who fight it, this film reveals the co-opting of what marketing experts have labeled a “dream cause.”

If you’re a woman, take the time to watch the documentary Pink Ribbons, Inc.

Watch it on

Netflix (x)

Itunes (x)

Youtube (for now…)    (x)

NFB (x)


Glad to see this on Tumblr. I don’t Pink. I don’t Run for a Cure. Write a check to your favorite women’s health charity.

I want a cure, I want research and support services and free diagnosis and treatment, I want lives saved. I do not give a flying fuck about pink ribbons, when less than 25% of Komen’s budget goes into research, but they do litigiously pursue competing organizations for trademark infringement. 

Find an org that is all about research or care or free services or support and write a check, click a donate button, give to someone who calls you but stop supporting an org that doesn’t do the actual work. 




This is important. Stop big cat hunting. This literally is making me cry. 

The way the lion tries to shut out the light…

:Why would you shoot it?

I cannot think of any reason to kill a Lion. You don’t eat it. It’s a waste.

If you’re not hunting for food, using your kill— you shouldn’t be hunting. Period.

And THIS is more like poaching in my eyes.

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